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The Object of Beauty Visualization

By on October 5, 2020

Life is uncertain, but today I am going to share with you how to find your object of beauty in the chaos. I know every single one of you who open this post and read through it has experienced pain, loss, and traumas. It is tough to find the object of beauty when it feels like everything is out of control. Right now, I know as a mass we are feeling this more than we ever have.


My emotions have been wavering. Sometimes I feel okay and can find my peace, other times I am anxious and my mind takes over. Daily I see my kids are happy and the sun is shining (most of the time). In the present moment, I feel safe, and I am holding on to the Knowing that the negativity shall pass.

Beauty in the Chaos


I’ve written before about the importance of unplugging and grounding. That has been a lifesaver for me in certain moments. Other times I have found peace by allowing myself to feel my feelings, honor them, and let myself feel love.

Yes, it is okay to feel afraid, it is okay to worry about the future. I just try to uplift out of it and not let it consume my thoughts. Sometimes it takes ALL of my tools to stay uplifted.

Tools to Stay Present


Of course, you know I am going to say oils. Harmony, Joy, Awaken, White Angelica, and Valor are great support. You could probably pick up any oil you have sitting around, apply it, and feel calmer, or happier.

And by the way, being calm is super for your immune system. I won’t get into the biology of it– but you heal easier and can handle so much more when your nervous system is relaxed.
 

Visualization– I have been very intentional about making sure to sit down 3-5 minutes, twice a day. It doesn’t sound like much but it’s what I can fit in with 3 kids and their needs.

How often do you sit and try to relax only to have to deal with the jumbled mess in your brain? Thoughts bounce back and forth. Did I switch that last load of laundry? What are we going to have for dinner? Is this pandemic ever going to end? What if it doesn’t? What if someone in our family catches it? Let’s go outside this evening. And on and on (and this was just a glimpse into my head, lol.)


We are bombarded with information. We get overwhelmed. Overloaded. What does an overwhelmed mind do? Nothing. We get paralyzed.
One of the best tools I’ve found to help find and sustain calm and centeredness is to practice an “object of beauty” visualization.

A Simple Practice

The object of beauty visualization is something you can do in just 3-5 min per day. I sit with my timer during the kids’ afternoon nap most often, and sometimes I’ll do it again before bed.

What is something that is beautiful to you? A tree?  A view you experienced once on a vacation? A mountain path?

Take a moment, sit down, take a slow inhale, and start visualizing the image. See it in detail. The outline of the trees, sounds of the birds chirping, or water rushing. Whatever your image is, bring it to all of your senses. See it, hear it, touch it, taste it, and smell it.

If your mind wanders about the worries of the world or your grocery list just gently bring it back to the image you are visualizing. Don’t judge yourself or feel agitated that the mind wandered. Be gentle with yourself. 

The feeling you get as you visualize your object of beauty permeates through your stresses and helps make unpleasantries easier to manage. Take 3 minutes out of your days this week and sit with your object of beauty. What do you have to lose?

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Energetic Frequency: Protect & Nourish

By on August 8, 2020

A few weeks ago, my husband and I went on a nature walk to learn about medicinal plants that are local to our area. It was fascinating to learn how we can use certain plants for food, for healing, and even for shelter. The first thought the naturalist and guide touched on was the energetic frequency of plants. How they are communicating and living on a much deeper level than we can see with our naked eye.

Energetic Frequency

What is the nature of energetic frequency? It is a measurable rate of electrical energy flow that is constant between two points.

As humans we have an energetic field that surrounds us– it extends about 2-3 feet around us and the typical frequency of the human body is 62-68 MHz. Our brains, during daytime hours, are running around 72-78 MHz. 

Everything has a frequency, although there are different types of frequencies. Most electronics in our homes run around 60 MHz. Frequencies are incoherent, coherent, chaotic, harmonic, direct current (DC) or alternating current (AC). Electronics and items that are manmade have an AC current which is chaotic. Humans, plants and other items found in the natural world are DC and harmonic.

When the frequency of our body dips, we become candidates for illnesses– the immune function is suppressed.

Facts about Frequency

  1. When the right and left lobes of the brain vary more than 3 MHz, a headache sets in. When they vary more than 10 Hz, that causes a migraine.
  2. A cold sets in at 58 MHz, flu at 57 MHz, candida at 55 MHz, Epstein Barr at 52, cancer 42.
  3. It has been measured that holding a cup of coffee can drop the body down to 58 and it takes about 3 days to get the frequency back to normal on its own. 

Things that negatively impact body frequency:

  1. Processed/canned foods= 0 MHz.
  2. Negative emotions/thoughts/words.
  3. The company you keep.
  4. Toxins/environmental disturbances.

Fun facts:

  1. Fresh food and herbs have a frequency of around 15 MHz.
  2. Essential Oils can have frequencies anywhere from 52-320 MHz.
  3. Applying an oil can change your frequency in 21 seconds.

I want to talk about the quality of our thoughts and what we surround ourselves with. We can think anywhere from 12,000-60,000 thoughts per day. 98% of those thoughts are often repetitive, and those repetitive thoughts are what establishes our beliefs. Out of those 98%, repetitive thoughts, something like 80% are negative for the average person. 

Negative thoughts carry low frequencies. I’m sure you’ve had days that feel light, happy and at ease. When your frequency is low you may feel dark, confused, or heavy. The quicker you can recover your “vibe” to optimal, the healthier you will be. Blame is an emotional state that has an incredibly low frequency– forgiveness has a much higher frequency.

It is important to keep your physical body healthy by eating foods full of good vitamins/minerals and life supporting frequencies. The company you keep is also vital. The 5 people you spend the most time with should be high frequency, positive folks, and music and media can also affect frequencies.

Protecting your Vibe

Ways to support healthy energetic frequencies:

  1. Get outside (without your phone).
  2. Eat high vibe food. Fresh produce (local if possible), pure water, avoid alcohol, and chemical additives.
  3. Practice gratitude– here’s a blog post I wrote about how to foster gratitude.
  4. Check your relationships and make sure you keep good company.
  5. Use essential oils. Oils won’t necessarily prevent your frequency from dropping, however it will help reestablish optimal frequencies very quickly. You can apply and your frequency will rebound in 21 seconds! Naturally, it takes around 3 days!
  6. Make your environment beautiful. Make a space at your desk that you enjoy, keep your home serene, reduce clutter, use color.
  7. Think positive thoughts. 
  8. Meditate/Breathwork. These practices calm the mind and nervous system, reduce stress and allow you to be grounded in the present.

So, the next time you start to feel low, or maybe begin to feel sick take a moment and think about the energy you are emitting and the energy you are accepting.

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How to Reflect & Bring Peace to Your Daily Life

By on July 13, 2020

In my life, I work to bring my yoga practice into my daily life. As I have said in my bio, I found yoga poses 10 years ago. Since then I have wanted to learn more about the philosophy and the other 7 limbs of practice as outlined in the Yoga Sutras.

I have a few things I do daily that has really improved my mental well-being. I have a consistent meditation practice, I use affirmations, and I reflect to help balance out my daily experiences.

What is Reflection?

Reflection is a self-analysis and it is a wonderful tool to add to your bedtime routine. Use the analysis to remember the events of your day and take note of any repeating patterns. note repeating patterns of emotional ups and downs, my cycles of procrastination and activity, and the kinds of people I keep encountering. This practice is a great tool and can be done either mentally or on paper.

How to Practice Reflection

Before going to bed at night, find a comfortable place where you can sit up straight and alert. It is fine to sit in a chair, or comfortably on the floor. I have a bolster and blanket in my bedroom.

Take a moment, close your eyes, and remember back to the beginning of your day. Visualize all of the activities, events, or encounters you had during the entire day; see it all step-by-step as your day progressed. As the memory of your day unfolds, take note of emotional periods. Note them down and recognize if they were negative emotions or positive emotions.

During the period of recollection, find one moment in your day that felt very beautiful. Hold the feeling of that moment in your mind and then send that feeling back out to the moment, person, or situation. Then send that feeling back to yourself, allowing it to bless your own body and mind. Then take the feeling and visualize sending it out into the entire world.

The next step is to choose the moment that was most negative or irritating. Try to reflect on it from a different perspective, see it through a different lens. Try to see it through a lens that is logical and rational. Then send loving thoughts to that person or situation.

Reflecting with a different perspective is sometimes difficult. Many times the mind wants to rebel or resist seeing the situation differently. We often want to argue our side of things or only see it from our personal perspective. I like to diffuse an emotionally balancing essential oil or apply one to help combat the resistance. Some good choices are Surrender, Release, Clarity, Valor, Present Time, or even Frankincense (there are so many to choose from and I typically just grab what is convenient and close or that I am intuitively drawn to).

The Benefits of Reflection

The benefit of this practice is that you will become aware of emotional patterning and will be able to clear and balance them and feel a stronger sense of peace and freedom.

Practicing this daily makes it easier to let go of thoughts more easily in the moment. You will be able to notice when a habitual thought pattern starts nagging you. Just having awareness and seeing things from a different lens can assist in releasing negative emotions before they take over and steal precious moments of your day.

I know that I have often lost a lot of my day solely due to emotional discord. Being able to shift my perspective and emotional state allows me to use the energy I would lose on healthier alternatives.`

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Affirm Your Reality

By on February 22, 2020

This week my teenager has been jittering with nerves and excitement because he is participating in a Tae Kwon Do sparring competition. He has been so concerned with his snacks, his playlist, and his electrolyte drinks. At first, I found it cute– until I heard some of the words he used to describe himself.

His negative self-talk is a bully. This made me stop and think. Where did these thoughts come from? Why do we as humans have these types of thoughts that turn into destructive self-talk?

We walk through life bombarded with suggestions. We see advertisements, we hear our parents, our peers, our society. The brain can only filter so much, and after a lot of repetition, we tend to automatically gravitate toward the negative.

Think about the weight loss program that is being sold to you every single time you open your computer. How often is the result (product) sold to someone? The odds are that the majority are just being “sold” the thought that they are fat and need to do something about it. This is how our subconscious minds are programmed by what we see, what we hear, and what we are exposed to. Whether you buy it or not, the seed is planted that you’re not good enough as is, or you need to change.

I think about my son, this year we made the decision to leave brick and mortar school, and the main reason was that he could not handle the environment. The way the kids were talking and making choices that made Keenan feel anxious. What he saw and heard, whether directly or indirectly, made an imprint (or trauma) on his psyche.

The negativity from our earliest childhood exposure (age 5 and younger) make the strongest impact on our young minds and can be the toughest to unwire. Although everything else we pick up along the way cumulates, one thought on top of the other.

We can receive suggestions in 2 ways. The suggestions of others. These are other people’s thoughts and suggestions that stay with us. We think it and feel it as our own, even if it isn’t rooted in our own experience. And we have thoughts that are truly ours and ours alone.

A personal goal of mine is to make conscious choices about what I think and do. I know I have been on autopilot many times or adopted other’s values as my own so that I gained a superficial sense of acceptance.

Because I grew up in a traumatic environment, I have researched and tried many therapeutic methods to help release negative thoughts (traumas). I have also found that the deeper the scar and earlier the imprint the harder (more work, more effort, more time) it takes to unwind the “damage”.

One of the most powerful ways I have found to retrain thoughts is by using an affirmation. This technique is simple and just requires consistency to be effective.

Only use one affirmation at a time, and stick with it until you see success. As I said before the deeper the scar, the longer you may need to use the affirmation. When writing an affirmation, write in the progressive tense. Meaning I am — ING. I am becoming. Not I am already, or I will, you have to write/say as if you are moving toward improvement.

A good starting point I have shared many times is the affirmation “Every day in every way my mind/body is becoming healthier and healthier.” Write it down on a post-it note and put it in every space you visit frequently. Your bathroom mirror, your computer, in your car, etc.

This has proven to be powerful for me and has improved my self-confidence and awareness when negative thoughts or reactions start running through my mind. I gave my son this tool and hope that has he uses it, to master his inner bully of self-talk and move toward adulthood with confidence and strength.

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Integrating the Mama

By on December 14, 2018

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In my path of personal development, gaining control of my mind and emotions is always at the top of my list. Since becoming pregnant with this little girl, my commitment to ridding myself of some intense thoughts/emotions that I have been carrying is at the top of my list. I have mentioned in some past blogs that I grew up in a severely abusive/addictive household, which forced me to grow up quickly.

I took on the adult role at a young age but held on to the scared, sad girl piece of myself well into adulthood.  Why is this pregnancy sparking some motivation? With each kid, I can see where I have grown and where I need to grow, so adding another life (and a female) that is dependent on me and my strength as a woman really puts things into a different perspective.

My childhood experience was severe. I watched my mother battle her pains, and lose to drugs and alcohol. I intensely craved her love, stability, and support and I know that the mother/daughter experience I craved is gone– but I do have the ability to be whole, complete, and present-centered for my children.

 

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Carrying Childhood Wounds into Adulthood

The broken, fragment, little girl piece of myself caused me to seek out codependent relationships and friendships. Being in this type of relationship was all I knew, and what I felt was “normal”. Somewhere along my path, at age 35, I “got it”. I woke up, realized where I was at, what I had been choosing, and how my physical and mental health was affected by these types of relationships and choices.

After I made the “break” from my old life, I quickly moved into a good space. Things changed very fast. New town, new marriage, a new baby, and on and on. The funny thing about it was that I had this new life and really wrestled with the fact that it was “real”. I feared that I was repeating old patterns, that it was all going to disappear just as it unfolded for me. My entire pregnancy with Ezra was plagued with fear that he would have to endure the same pain that Keenan and I did, that surely things were not as good as they seemed.

My poor husband has had to endure interrogation, judgment, and moodiness all based on my fears. My oldest and I have butted heads. He lived with me in the pain, watched the transformation and has had to gain trust along the way.  I have struggled with finishing projects, pursuing my passions, and just living in the present moment from those old wounds. Three years later, and old thoughts have the power to ruin a whole entire day.

 

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All of Life is But A Transformation

The past is the past. This is something that is sometimes difficult to accept. Making a decision and commitment to myself has been where my relaxation and “change” is coming from during this next phase of life. When I live by the old images or stories I forget where I am committed to going. The life that I am creating for myself and my family and the impact that my change can have on our entire society.

My exercise during this pregnancy is to recognize when I am headed into the constrictive space of recreating pain (in my mind). I lose valuable time during those moments, and the toxic thoughts can actually create tension and physical toxicity which is not an ideal environment for a growing baby (or the children who have to live with a negative vibe).

Over the years, I have used many techniques to change my patterning. During this phase, work and exercise are the most effective. Putting all of the mental energy that I would put into a negative thought stream is now going into something constructive or productive. Fulfilling a goal, finishing a project, truly doing and sharing my passions.

Just like I hate wearing uncomfortable clothes, I hate carrying around uncomfortable thoughts– so the choice is mine. Do I choose to continue carrying pain, or change into those comfortable yoga pants and get it done?!

 

When she transformed into a butterfly, the caterpillars spoke not of her beauty, but of her weirdness. They wanted her to change back into what she always had been. But she had wings.” Dean Jackson

 

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