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The Object of Beauty Visualization

Life is uncertain, but today I am going to share with you how to find your object of beauty in the chaos. I know every single one of you who open this post and read through it has experienced pain, loss, and traumas. It is tough to find the object of beauty when it feels like everything is out of control. Right now, I know as a mass we are feeling this more than we ever have.


My emotions have been wavering. Sometimes I feel okay and can find my peace, other times I am anxious and my mind takes over. Daily I see my kids are happy and the sun is shining (most of the time). In the present moment, I feel safe, and I am holding on to the Knowing that the negativity shall pass.

Beauty in the Chaos


I’ve written before about the importance of unplugging and grounding. That has been a lifesaver for me in certain moments. Other times I have found peace by allowing myself to feel my feelings, honor them, and let myself feel love.

Yes, it is okay to feel afraid, it is okay to worry about the future. I just try to uplift out of it and not let it consume my thoughts. Sometimes it takes ALL of my tools to stay uplifted.

Tools to Stay Present


Of course, you know I am going to say oils. Harmony, Joy, Awaken, White Angelica, and Valor are great support. You could probably pick up any oil you have sitting around, apply it, and feel calmer, or happier.

And by the way, being calm is super for your immune system. I won’t get into the biology of it– but you heal easier and can handle so much more when your nervous system is relaxed.
 

Visualization– I have been very intentional about making sure to sit down 3-5 minutes, twice a day. It doesn’t sound like much but it’s what I can fit in with 3 kids and their needs.

How often do you sit and try to relax only to have to deal with the jumbled mess in your brain? Thoughts bounce back and forth. Did I switch that last load of laundry? What are we going to have for dinner? Is this pandemic ever going to end? What if it doesn’t? What if someone in our family catches it? Let’s go outside this evening. And on and on (and this was just a glimpse into my head, lol.)


We are bombarded with information. We get overwhelmed. Overloaded. What does an overwhelmed mind do? Nothing. We get paralyzed.
One of the best tools I’ve found to help find and sustain calm and centeredness is to practice an “object of beauty” visualization.

A Simple Practice

The object of beauty visualization is something you can do in just 3-5 min per day. I sit with my timer during the kids’ afternoon nap most often, and sometimes I’ll do it again before bed.

What is something that is beautiful to you? A tree?  A view you experienced once on a vacation? A mountain path?

Take a moment, sit down, take a slow inhale, and start visualizing the image. See it in detail. The outline of the trees, sounds of the birds chirping, or water rushing. Whatever your image is, bring it to all of your senses. See it, hear it, touch it, taste it, and smell it.

If your mind wanders about the worries of the world or your grocery list just gently bring it back to the image you are visualizing. Don’t judge yourself or feel agitated that the mind wandered. Be gentle with yourself. 

The feeling you get as you visualize your object of beauty permeates through your stresses and helps make unpleasantries easier to manage. Take 3 minutes out of your days this week and sit with your object of beauty. What do you have to lose?

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Backwards With Time

 

avett-brothers-2390713_640The Avett Brothers are one of my favorite bands. The lyrics and title of the song Backwards With Time have been floating through my head most of the day. Backwards With Time. Am I losing my mind, or am I going backwards with time?  This verse is what I want to focus on for a moment in my writing.

Goals, decisions, choices. I think about these things a lot. Why would we ever feel like we are losing our minds or going backwards in time?  Why would someone work hard to achieve something then let all they have worked for go away? I know I have been guilty of this. An example is losing 25 pounds, managing it keep the weight off for a year and gain it all back in a matter of months. My answer is complacency. We get tired of working hard, or feel we “deserve” things to keep working on its own without the same effort. For me, I am learning to make lifestyle changes permanent. Changing bad habits– making true change, and keeping up with my vision of what true health and wellness is. I refuse to settle for only feeling “okay”. The definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over and expecting a different result.

I have had a lot of bad habits in my life. One thing I have learned is that once you know better, it feels way worse to “backslide”. Yesterday when I sat down with my Avett Brother’s playlist I was in one of those moments where bad habits were lurking in my mind. I felt stressed, overwhelmed, and questioned some advice I was given (that I knew I needed to take). My first response was to react in anger (which for me is the cover emotion for absolutely every other emotion), then the thought of devouring a box of cookies felt like a good choice.

My mind was searching for something to soothe or procrastinate the actions I knew I needed to take for my ultimate wellness. Why, oh why is suffering such an “easy” choice? Stepping out of our comfort zone and doing something different– thinking a new thought and doing it, even if it feels uncomfortable often leads to personal growth that we can not even fathom. Lifestyle change, permanent change requires tapping into an internal strength and commitment to the light at the end of the tunnel that we may only get a glimpse of on occasion. Strengthening our focus, staying attuned to that glimpse makes the day to day actions toward whatever it is at the end of the tunnel feel less elusive. The key is to get out of complacency, pushing against resistance and catapulting up and out of the funk that sometimes feels like we may be losing our minds or going backwards in time.