One week ago today, I attended my first birth as a doula. The experience was nothing short of amazing and a beautiful reminder of how humans can find strength when situations are tough. The word doula is derived from the Greek language and means “a woman who serves”. A doula’s role for a pregnant mama is to provide emotional, physical, and informational support. During my training, I really had no idea if I would truly follow the doula path, however I resonated with the definition of the profession and knew that I had to take the knowledge from the course and apply it to my everyday life.
I know in my own life, having support has been crucial when working toward life improvement. Just a few short years ago, I was at a place where I felt life was crumbling around me. In my previous post, I shared a glimpse of one of my personal struggles and the end of that era came when I made the choice to divorce my ex and remove myself from all addictive situations. It was a tough decision and at the time I felt weak and I did not know exactly how or what would be next in my life. The thing that got me through it was the tribe of support I had, and now I can look back and barely identify with the pain.
Sometimes when taking a step toward something you fear, the courage is not something that is mustered immediately. Courage often comes after the discomfort has subsided. We are strong and resilient creatures, and we hold a lot of power within to get through difficult situations. The struggle can be eased if we have someone we trust in our sphere to provide support, can advise on methods to help ease the discomfort, and help us remember what our desired outcome is. Some of the most valuable tools in my life have been people who have provided unconditional love and support. That is something I value and strive to provide for others, whether in a birthing situation or day-to-day life.